Don’t break the chain!

How is your calendar looking?  Not to , but mine is looking awesome!  I made a commitment to myself on December 27, 2016, to do some kind of work on this book everyday.  And, I have! (Here‘s my previous post about it.)  Some days it’s researching for a few hours and some days it’s simply sending or replying to an email.  BUT, it all adds up.

There have been a few days that I get ready to go to bed and realize that the day had slipped by, and I hadn’t done one single thing for the book.  So, I lug out the ol’ laptop and get to work.  There was one day that I even thought I could skip it–just that one time.  But, I know I wouldn’t be able to look at that one square on the calendar that didn’t have a big red X.  So, after everyone was in bed, I got to work.  And, I’m so glad I did.

So, just because it’s been quiet around here, I assure you, it’s not because I’m not working.  I’m actually getting quite a bit done.  Shocker! But, now that I’m committed to work on the book everyday, I’m getting so much more done.  Yeah, I know!  Who knew?

I have some great interviews in the works.  I just visited with Erin Althea, and I’ll be posting about that soon.  She’s the mother of twins and is a props/FX designer at DreamWorks!  She also owns her own business, Love&Quarry, where she produces concrete and resin objects and accessories.  I also have a telephone interview tomorrow with Darrah from OtisB Jewelry.

So, stay tuned.  There’s lots in the works.  And, keep working everyday so you can put that big red X on your calendar.


Advice on productivity from Jerry Seinfeld

I had already heard about Jerry Seinfeld’s calendar system from Austin Kleon.  Here‘s a recent post of his about it.  But, I hadn’t read this article–Jerry Seinfeld’s Productivity Secret by Brad Isaac.  It’s such a simple concept, and it makes so much sense.  Anytime really is a good time to try a new system, but the beginning of a new year is the perfect time to implement this system.

My challenge to you:

  1.  Buy a calendar.
  2. Do work.  Everyday.
  3. Don’t break the chain.

I’m going to do it too.  I’m buying a giant wall calendar (and a red Sharpie).  Here‘s the  calendar I picked out.  Can’t wait to start making those red Xs.

Dan Blank talks about finding focus to create more

The following is a share from my inbox today from Dan Blank:

Happy Friday!

If you are a writer or creative professional who works on your craft at home, I want to share my best advice on how to do so. I want to help you find more focus amidst the many distractions you face every single day.

This is everything I have learned through:

  • Working from home full-time for the past 6 years, while running my company WeGrowMedia, and raising a family.
  • Working from home both full and part time when I had a corporate job in the 3 years prior to that.
  • Working with thousands of writers and creative professionals, who themselves work from home, or split their time between a traditional office setting and nontraditional settings of home, cafe, etc.
  • Studying how successful people manage to get stuff done while at home.

Okay, let’s dig in:

Calendar everything.

My life runs on time blocking. This means I open up my calendar application (I use Apple’s Calendar) and block out each hour of the day for tasks.

Sounds crazy, right?

It’s not. It allows me to have clarity about what I need to do throughout the day, reducing decision-fatigue. What’s that? It’s having to think a million times “Um, what is on fire right now?” and rely on my emotions to tell me.

Instead, I have clarity in my day, and I’m allowed to work on some immediate tasks, but also work on projects that won’t have a pay off for months or years down the road. When you run every moment of your schedule based on emotions, you are going to spend all day reacting. It’s hard to build something meaningful over time when you are too busy reacting all the time.

I use three different color codes in my calendar: green for meetings, purple for focused creative work, and blue for non-work stuff. Yes, I schedule that too. Today I have scheduled what I’m eating for lunch and when I take my nap. Oh, I take a nap every day too. (More on that here.)

For important tasks, I schedule twice as much time as I think I need. Why? Because I have found that I will try to “squeeze in” an important task, when it truly requires more space. I want to be honest with myself about how long craft takes. This applies to so much of what I do, including writing. This morning I spent an hour editing 2 pages of a book I am writing, and that was with notes to guide me. That hour felt like 100 decisions to find clarity, to craft prose, to move things around, and to ensure it fit within the larger context of that chapter.

Schedule everything that requires your focus, including when you will get to email. Too often, someone will schedule meetings on their calendar, and just assume that email will be managed in the cracks in between meetings. It won’t. Instead what happens is that person’s day is spent constantly “trying to catch up,” and can’t effectively communicate with others because of it.

Does time blocking sound too rigid for your tastes? I keep it flexible by constantly moving blocks of time around on my calendar. Why? Because life happens. My schedule needs to honor the important work that needs to get done, but also that we are human beings living in a complex ecosystem where things change all the time. We are all managing family, relationships, physical and mental health, and our responsibilities to work, home, and our communities.

But maybe time blocking won’t work for you. If that is the case, I encourage you to take the same strategy, but apply it to different tactics. Perhaps instead you wake up every day to a hand-written to-do list that you made out the night before. Or you wake up to an intention that you wrote out the night before — a single thing that you need to ensure gets done each day.

My point is this: have a system.

If you feel that you are drowning every day, and can never find the time for your creative work, I strongly encourage you to consider new ways to manage your daily calendar.

Have a door. That locks.

If you work from home, even if just for what you feel is a “hobby” of writing, find a space that can be truly private. And this is the important part: the door should have a lock on it.

Since I run a little company, I have an office at home that is 100% dedicated to work. When we bought the house, this was the first space I defined when divvying up the bedrooms because it needed to have a sense of privacy in terms of the layout of the house. I also installed a lock on the door — a signal to myself and to my family that there are times when work is more important than whatever the interruption is.

Perhaps you can only find a tiny desk in a spare bedroom for you to use for your work. Or a section of the basement. Whatever it is, take the time to go to Home Depot, buy one of those cheap locks with keys, and install it on the door.

That key is a symbol that your creative work matters.

Learn to create in sprints, not marathons

I know, there are some full-time writers or artists who can devote 12 hours a day to becoming lost in their work. I think that is truly awesome.

But for the rest of us, we can’t.

Our days are spent juggling 1,000 things: the litter box has to be changed, you have two kids about to come home from school, you work part time at the post office, and as a crossing guard for extra cash, and the dishes are piled up in the sink. Oh, and you want to write today.

I would encourage you to develop the skill to create even in small increments of time: 10 or 20 minutes.

You may tell me that it takes you longer than that to “get into” writing, and that once you are in the zone, you lose track of time. That’s fine, but if it the result is that you can never find that kind of time to write, then I encourage you to work on the skill of smaller sprints of creative work.

Buy a timer. One of those kitchen timers, or a cheap timer on Amazon. Set if for 20 minutes to give yourself little bouts of work in between moments of your otherwise busy day. For many of you, you will never have a spare 2 hours where you can write. BUT… you may have 20 minutes. Set the timer so that you can feel freedom to write for those 20 minutes.

Connect a task to a place

Sometimes “working from home” really means not working in the home. I spend the first 4 hours of the day working from my local Starbucks.

That means I never schedule meetings first thing in the day, because that time is dedicated to writing and to doing client work. When I come home, that is when I catch up on other tasks and take calls. Starbucks is a place dedicated to doing focused work.

You can create this for yourself in a variety of ways; perhaps you go to the library where you will only work on your novel; then you will go to a cafe where you will only do business planning; and then at home, you will only do admin, email, and take calls.

Each place has their own mood — experiment and find what works for a given task. I have found that I focus really well when working amidst the chaos of morning rush hour at Starbucks.

Develop tiny habits

Everything I have shared above comes down to creating small habits. The bottom line is that I understand that you are likely struggling to make ends meet financially; that you are taking care of a family; that you may be going through a health crisis; that the time to focus on your creative work never seems to be “right now,” because important things come up.

My final pieces of advice:

  • Forgive yourself. Let go of the guilt you feel in feeling that you can’t do it all.
  • Find joy in the process. I listen to music while I work, and that helps me stay focused and inspired.
  • Reward yourself for the tasks you do accomplish each week, even if you feel you dropped a few balls. The reward can be simple, such as food or a beverage.

What helps you get your creative work done?


Well, I definitely felt that this email was written directly to me today.  It’s been 22 days since my last blog post.  22!  There’s no excuse for that, even though I’ve thought of several during those 22 days.  I’m definitely feeling that my creative work needs to become a priority instead of the first thing shoved to the back burner when something else (anything else) comes up.  Dan’s words could not have come at a better time for me.

Creativity Blocker #2 – Housework


I know the stereotypical creative works long, crazy hours in what seems to me mass chaos for the sake of his or her art, but I just don’t operate like that.  I need some sort of order in my life so that I can even think about being creative.  Maybe that means that I’m not a TRUE creative at heart…  I don’t know.  But, I do believe that all creative mamas out there must balance their creative passions with their housework.  Myself included.

Let’s face it.  Housework has to get done.  The more it piles up, the more hopeless the situation seems to be.  Your entire family probably depends on your ability to run your household and everyone suffers if you aren’t doing it well.  There are so many things on our to-do list–meal planning, cooking, cleaning, laundry, running errands, paying bills, grocery shopping… The list goes on and on, and it can seem overwhelming.

I have one solution that worked for me–“Sidetracked Home Executives” by Pam Young and Peggy Jones.  This book was a game changer for me several years ago, and I still use the system today, although my system is customized and updated.  This book is a super short read, but it is packed with so much wisdom.

You obviously have to read the book to get the most out of their system, but the general idea is to create a rotating card system that keeps track of household duties so that you won’t get behind again.  This book covers all aspects of homemaking and has wonderful suggestions for meal planning, organization, scheduling, holidays, and dressing like you intend to leave the house.

I do have to mention that earlier this year I got rid of my beloved file card box.  I had had that thing for 10 years!  But, I traded it in for something that works just as well, if not better, for me.  I use the Tody app.  With this app, the calendar, and contacts on my iPhone, I could replace my entire card file box, and the system still works great for me.

On that note, I do have to say that I wish the slob sisters had kept up their momentum and reinvented their card file system for the digital age.  I would love to see an app from them.  The book was first printed in 1981.  While a lot of the book is still relevant, it could use a little updating.  But that’s where your creativity comes in.  Read the book and make the system into one that works just for you and your family.

Although I am Pam and Peggy’s number one fan, I will have to say that different systems work for different people.  Theirs happens to be the one that clicked for me.  Here are a few other suggestions if “Sidetracked Home Executives” doesn’t work for you:

And if none of these systems seem to work for you, you’re creative… make your own system.  But the key is to stick with it.  You didn’t get into your mess overnight, and you won’t get out of it that quickly either.  Find a system that works for you and keep at it.  It will get better and easier, and eventually you will have some guilt-free time to dedicate to your creative passion.

What blocks your creativity?  Financial troubles?  A messy house?  Leave your comment below.

More than just motherhood and creativity

When I started this blog, I simply wanted to post about motherhood and creativity and to chronicle the progress of writing a book about how the two intersect.  It was never my intention to post about much of anything else.  But, Dory’s got me thinking again.  (You can read my Dory-inspired post from yesterday here.)

I was thinking about all those things that I listed in that blog post.  Those things that happen in life that truly get in the way of our creativity.  There really is so much more to motherhood and creativity than JUST motherhood and creativity. Since yesterday, I’ve been thinking about that quick little list I jotted down, and I began to reflect on those things in my own life–those “Just Keep Swimming” moments.

I’ve realized I really have come quite a long way.  While I don’t claim to have it all figured out, I do have a few ideas that I’d like to share with you that might just help you reclaim some time, energy or sanity in your life so you can have more of those things to spend on your creative passion.

Over the next week or so, I’ll be posting a series of blog posts about some of those life things that can hinder our creativity and the solutions that have worked for me.  I look forward to sharing my “infinity wisdom” with you!

Just Keep Swimming


The lock screen on my computer right now says “Just Keep Swimming:  Own Finding Dory” with a pretty photo of lots of colorful fish.  It’s a Microsoft ad that changes randomly, but I was thinking about it as I was dozing off to sleep last night.  (Who knows why…).

We all just need to just keep swimming.  No matter what.  No matter the circumstances (that we sometimes feel that we can’t handle but we always do).  So, just keep swimming, even if…

  • One of your children has the stomach bug
  • You entire family has a cold that won’t go away
  • You’re tired
  • You feel like you have too much to do
  • Your husband is always working
  • You child isn’t doing well in school
  • You aren’t doing well in school
  • Your house is a wreck
  • Your finances are controlling you, instead of the other way around
  • Your job is stressful
  • Your business isn’t doing as well as you wish it were
  • Fill in the blank “_____”

The list goes on and on, but you’ve got this.  Just slow down, BUT just keep swimming.  Illnesses will get better.  Get some rest.  Make a plan.  Learn to say no.  Ask for help.  Take care of yourself and keep taking care of those who depend on you.  Prioritize.

Please be honest with yourself.  It’s not all going to get done, and it’s certainly not all going to get done perfectly.  But, choose what’s important to you right now and work on those things and maybe dedicate a small amount of time to the other things. I don’t believe that people can “have it all,” but I do believe that people can have what’s most important to them.

Today’s blog post was brought to you by Dory.

Just keep swimming.

Need time to work on your creative project? Start a babysitting co-op!

I recently spoke to a mom who talked to me about making the transition from her full-time, outside-of-the-home job to working from home after her baby was born.  She’s a writer and editor.  She wanted to be able to work from home and raise her daughter, so full-time day care was not an option.  But, she still needed some time to work on her assignments and attend occasional meetings.  So, she started a babysitting co-op.

I’ve heard of them before, and I’ve always thought them to be a wonderful idea.  What mom doesn’t have the occasional “thing” (dentist appointment, doctor’s appointment, parent/teacher conference, etc.) come up that would just be easier if the little kids could stay behind?  Or, who doesn’t need a few hours here and there to work on that passion project?  I think a babysitting co-op could be the answer.

There is lots of info online about there, but here’s what I found at

What’s a babysitting co-op?

The official definition of a co-op is an enterprise or institution owned and operated by the people who use its services. In practice, of course, babysitting co-ops are much more casual: Basically, a bunch of parents get together and agree to take turns watching each other’s children.

Many local moms’ clubs or other parenting groups have a babysitting co-op, so consider joining such a group if one exists in your area.

Why do I need one?

The main reason most parents join or start babysitting co-ops is to save money on sitters. It’s a trade instead of a paid service – you get free babysitting in return for providing free babysitting for others. And this can be easier than you think because watching other peoples’ kids is less of a stretch when you’re already home watching your own.

As your children get older, shared babysitting can actually feel more like trading playdates. The children are occupied playing together, which gives you more time to yourself.

More important, joining a co-op assures you that your child will be looked after by the best kind of sitter – another parent you know and trust. You don’t have to worry about hiring a teenager who’s essentially a stranger and might pay scant attention to your kids or do things in your home you don’t entirely approve of.

“The best thing about the co-op, besides not having to pay, is that our kids know each other and play together,” says Marie desJardins, a mother of two in Menlo Park, California. “So in some ways, it’s actually better than having a babysitter come over because it’s a treat for the kids to get to visit a friend’s house. Plus, we know that these are experienced parents, and over time, the parents have become close friends too.”

How do I set one up?

Take the initiative. Talk to other parents in your neighborhood and see whether they like the idea. If you’re new to the area, or just haven’t met many parents, consider posting fliers at a local gathering spot – the corner cafe, the gym, the baby products store down the street, or check online for a parenting group in your area.

Marie desJardins started her co-op after reading an article on the subject in a newsletter for stay-at-home moms. Shortly after, she placed an ad in her daycare newsletter asking interested parents to give her a call. Several of them did. The result? The group established a three-way trading system.

The participants set up their co-op using a point system. Every hour (or portion thereof) of babysitting time is worth a specific number of points. Parents get paid for babysitting time in poker chips, which represent these points.

For example, a half hour of sitting can be exchanged for a white chip, an hour exchanged for a red chip, and two hours exchanged for a blue chip. When members accumulate enough chips to “pay” for an upcoming outing, they ask another member to babysit.

“The thing about setting up the chip system is that when you run out of earned time, you have an incentive to babysit for the other parents in the co-op,” says desJardins, “which means that everybody ends up going out on a fairly regular basis.”

Of course, you can also use a much more informal system in which you simply keep track of the number of hours each member babysits and consider that the same number of free babysitting hours earned.

Once you’ve found a few willing participants, think about setting up some guidelines. Some issues to consider:

  • Compensation. Do you want to use a time-reward system like desJardins’s chip method? Or would you prefer that parents simply keep track of their time? Some groups even arrange things so parents get paid for their time, then use that money in turn to pay other parents for the service.
  • Pricing. How will you determine the value of babysitting hours? For instance, will households with more than one child pay a higher rate than single-child households? Will co-op members earn extra credits for sitting on holidays?
  • Scheduling. One approach is to set up a group email list and send out weekly schedule updates to make sure everyone knows what’s happening. Some co-ops find it’s best to ask one person to keep track of scheduling. The job can either rotate monthly or be held by someone who is compensated for her time with extra hours of babysitting.
  • Ground rules. Do you want to set rules about how far in advance a co-op member must schedule or cancel a babysitting appointment? And how far in the hole can a family get before they have to start returning babysitting services?
    Also, what should the policy be if members drop out of the group ­ should they be asked to make up any time “owed” before they leave? And will new members need to have a sponsor in the group in order to join the co-op, or can anyone join?

After you iron out the details, distribute a master list that includes each member’s contact information. Make sure to have everyone’s phone numbers, email addresses, and mailing addresses. Note the number of children in each family as well as their names, ages, and emergency contact information.

Websites like Babysitter Exchange and Sitting Around can help you set up and manage a co-op. You can also get some good advice from books like Babysitting Co-Op 101: a Win-Win Childcare Solution, by Samantha Fogg Nielsen and Rachel Tolman Terry, or Smart Mom’s Baby-Sitting Co-Op Handbook: How We Solved the Babysitter Puzzle, by Gary Myers.

Give it a try and let me know how it works out for you.  Just another way moms out there are making it work while staying home to raise their kids.