Choose your sliver wisely

Last week, I had the pleasure of visiting with Jessica Uhler.  See my previous post about her here.  She was so kind and gracious in answering my questions, and I can’t wait to share her interview with you in the book.  But until then, I want to share with you one thought that jumped out at me.  When asked if she had any advice or words of wisdom for us, she had this to say:

One thing I’ve learned that is so counter-cultural and has given me a lot of peace is the fact that you can’t have it all- at least not at once. You can only have a sliver of it all. So choose your sliver wisely. Figure out what your priorities and purpose are, and don’t be afraid to say no to things that don’t line up with that- even if it seems like everyone else is doing it. Along with that, remember that everyone’s idea of success is different. Just because one artist is doing her life one way doesn’t mean it’s the right way for you. I think moms need to be reminded that it’s ok for your art to just be an outlet and beautiful expression of who you are, it doesn’t have to become a business just because it can. 

I agree whole-heartedly with every word.  I could not agree more!  Here are my thoughts:

  1.  If you are doing something “counter-culture,” then you’re probably doing it right.  You have to pick and choose what’s best for you and your family.  Too many people are spinning their wheels trying to keep up with the Joneses, when the Joneses are broke (stolen from Dave Ramsey), living an unhealthy lifestyle, not living right with God, or just not truly who they portray themselves to be.  So, don’t do anything just because our culture dictates that it’s the norm.
  2. I don’t think you can have it all either.  I mean, it just isn’t possible.  Something’s got to give.  And sometimes people don’t have their priorities in check and then can’t figure out why certain areas of their lives are falling apart. Figure out what your priorities are and stick to them.  Don’t let anything else in and don’t let those things steal your time or energy.
  3. Your art doesn’t have to turn into a business.  It can be an outlet just for you.  I know this first hand.  I had a successful photography business several years ago.  Fast forward about 10 years.  I was a stay-at-home mom, and I thought I could revive my old business and make some extra money to add to our family’s income.  My heart wasn’t in it.  I didn’t really WANT to do it, but I thought I should because I was able to.  Long story short, the second go-round of my business never too off, and I’m kind of glad it didn’t.

A huge thank you to Jessica Uhler for her kind words and thoughtful answers!  I look forward to sharing more about her with you in the book.  In the meantime, please check out her work at