Erika Roa addresses boundaries

In reviewing my interview with Erika, I find myself wanting to just sit and visit with her over a cup of coffee for hours.  She had such great, insightful answers.  Although the entire interview was awesome, one thing she said really stood out to me.

Erika says, “I’m a pretty firm believer in boundaries and the importance of teaching our children that, while we love them and will do anything for them, they also need to acknowledge that our lives do not solely revolve around them either.  So every now and again I can/will/and do remind my son that I am working and he needs to be patient with his requests.”

I feel that so many parents (myself included) feel that they must be the entertainment director of the family fun cruise ship, and that simply isn’t the case.  Kids DO need to learn to respect other people’s time and realize that they are not the center of the universe at any given moment.  On the other hand, that’s so hard to do.  It’s hard to tell those little faces that you can’t play Candyland for the third time today or do that puzzle or do whatever it is that they want to do because you have something else that needs to be done–cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, writing a book.

I think the key is finding the balance–letting your kids know that they are important and reminding them that your work is important too.  It’s a tough task but an important one.

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