Earlier this week, I spoke to Dejah Leger. You can see my previous post about her here. She had so many great things to say in our interview, but one thing really jumped out at me. When asked about what motivates her, this is (part of) what she had to say:
When I need to be musical, I’ll often kick my family out of the house to work on music. I send my kids and husband out of the house to watch a movie or grocery shop or something. I don’t feel guilty about it (usually). I’m an introvert, so my way of recharging my batteries is to be alone, and music is an extra level of self-centering. My family has come to terms with the fact that I’m a much better parent/partner/human being when I have that time of creative solitude, and so I’ve learned to ask for it, which isn’t always easy to do as a parent. Plus, there’s some weird phenomenon where the minute I sit down with my guitar is when my kids need my attention all of a sudden. Or want to make their own music. Loudly.
Her answer spoke to me because I, too, am an introvert. I don’t think that extroverts understand that introverts need peace and solitude to recharge. Extroverts get their energy from being around other people and being social. Introverts are the opposite; we often times need time to ourselves to regain our energy. Sorry folks, but being around people sometimes drains us.
I thought Dejah’s words were comforting in a way. It was almost as though she was giving me permission to want and need that time to myself to create. I don’t know about you, but I feel that I live in a world driven by and made for extroverts. Seeking solitude and quiet is not really praised in our society. We are supposed to be happy, social beings always, and we are looked at strangely when we need that little bit of alone time. I feel much more comfortable at home than striking up a conversation with a stranger or at a party. I feel that most people just don’t get that.
So, thank you to Dejah for giving us permission to and comfort in asking for that quiet time that we introverts need recharge and create!