I had the pleasure of interviewing Rachel Jones of www.nourishingminimalism.com. You can see my previous post about her here. I love her blog, and I’ve been a follower of hers for quite a while now. She’s the mother of six children, and she is the author of several books and resources that she offers on her website.
One thing that I did not realize about her is that she is the main breadwinner for her family. Her husband quit his full-time job to help her at home, and now he works part-time. This brings an interesting perspective into the mix, as most of the mothers I have interviewed work what most would consider “part-time” and the financial responsibility of the family does not fall on their shoulders.
She mentioned something in her interview that I want to share with you right away. I asked her if she ever turned down a project or chose not to pursue a project due to family obligations. This is what she had to say:
No. I have taken longer on a project because I needed to parent though! I have known for a long time that I am a nicer person and better parent when I have projects and goals. I knew that I wanted my children to see a healthy person taking care of themselves, so I determined that that is what I would do. My children have joined me in my life, rather than becoming my life. Getting divorced when my oldest was 5 years old, I had to be honest with myself on what I wanted my children to see as normal and healthy through the rest of my parenting of them. The first 5 years was a toxic example, and I knew I had to change that to be as healthy a person as I could be. I want my children to value themselves and be their own person, and I knew the only way was to be that example to them.
And generally, my projects are geared towards earning an income, and they all need to eat… so. 🙂
I picked up on two specific things in her answer.
1. She wants her children to see a healthy person who can take care of them. We all want that for our children. I HOPE my children see a well-balanced, efficient, happy mother who delights in their care and well-being. When you step back and look at the big picture, what do you want your children to see as their example? No excuses. Not if the circumstances were different. Not when they’re older or you have more time or you aren’t so stressed out or you don’t have so much to do. What do you want your children to see as their example TODAY?
2. She has to earn an income, and her children need to eat. That’s pretty good motivation. I think our children need to see that hard work puts food on the table. I think (hope) it instills gratefulness and appreciation in them.
Many thanks to Rachel for taking the time to answer my questions. Even if you have no interest in minimalism, I encourage you to check out her website. It will change your life for the better. Look for more from Rachel’s interview in my book.